- What are the common disengagement strategies that people use during the break up of a relationship? According to Cody, there are 5 strategies. The 5 strategies according to popularity are negative identity management, de-escalation, justification,positive tone and behavioural de-escalation. Which strategies are safe to use during the break up of a relationship? In my opinion, negative identity management and behavioural de-escalation may increase the negative feelings or hurt for the other party or both parties.
- Firstly, negative identity management includes blaming the other party. This does not tackle the root of the problem and will leave the other party confused and hurt. Although many people prefer to use this method to break up a relationship, it does not mean that it is the best strategy.
- Secondly, the behavioural de-escalation strategy is not appropriate to use because avoiding each other does not solve the problem. No communication between means that the problem is being pushed aside and misunderstandings still exists. This may increase the frustration and anger for the other party who is unknown about the motive of the other person. If explanation is not given appropriately, when the other party begins to realize that he or she wants to end the relationship, he may be hurt and rejected. He or she may not be able to manage the rejection as he is unsure of what causes the break-up of the relationship.
- De-escalation, justification, and positive tone are more safe to use as communication is involved to explain the break-up of the relationship.
- What are your views to this issue?
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